such a good boy

Two years ago we said goodbye to the best dog we could imagine ever having. T lived a full 15-1/2 years. So long for a big boy of 85-pounds. He was our first kid. Our first combined love. And, our first companion through life’s largest milestones. Condensed into one lifetime. Our first home – a […]

lack of love

Self love is a nagging buzz word/phrase right now. It is what acai berries were a few years ago to the good eating industry. My writing is evidence of its prominence with a post just a year ago focusing on the same eight letters. It reminds me of an affirmation that bears repeating until its […]

old scars becoming new fears

Pepper is authentic.  Fully, unabashedly herself.  Her drum beats differently and she stomps her feet to its rhythm with gusto.  This has always been her operating state and it is mix of fear and inspiration for me to watch. Being eight is different than being three and it seems the world is less forgiving and […]

bravery

As the girls grow older, it becomes more clear just how much of parenting is leading by example. Sometimes it is modeling.  Sometimes it is narratives. And sometimes it is definable actions that become rooted memories. For a child, like Pepper, who needs to learn, practice and continually hone her skills of emotional regulation and […]

being present

Things are truly in flux right now. We are in this awkwardly uncomfortable gray space. We sold our house last week (breathe a big long sigh of relief with me now….) and have made the choice to move into a temporary rental for the time being. The housing market is a seller’s dream, but a […]